10 Things Successful Women Refuse To Do

December 23, 2016

With just days away from the new year I’m sharing with you a great list of habits I found on pinterest that you and I both need to leave behind in the new year.

1  Gossip about other women

2  Judge other women

3  Negative self talk

4  Live for others

5  Put their dreams on hold

6  Stop learning

7  Stop listening

8  Remain silent

9  Live with worry and doubt

10  Settle for less

Have you started writing out your 2017 goals and resolutions yet? In my latest podcast episode I  breakdown the 5 types of goals you should be creating and how to properly evaluate your goals throughout the year to keep you on track.  Give it a listen now or download the episode to listen to later when you have more time.

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  • Reply Omo and Eulanda December 27, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    Great list and we agree with every single point

  • Reply Terria November 29, 2017 at 6:20 am

    What a powerful list! Number 9 is one I and my beautiful friends combat as we grow as wives, mothers, & entrepreneurs!
    I’m learning even when worry and doubt rears their ugly head I CAN DO IT ANYWAY! ONWARD!

  • Reply Imani Nia Briscoe November 29, 2017 at 7:11 am

    Currently working on numero ocho. I tend to remain silent on minor things that build up over time and equate to a massive issue rather than tackling it head on in hopes to not disturb the status quo. However, not much was ever accomplished by being complacent. Closed mouths don’t get fed.

  • Reply Bridget Elam November 29, 2017 at 7:57 am

    I finally have No. 5 under my belt. Starting to put some feet to my aspirations!

  • Reply Regina Cherry November 29, 2017 at 8:57 am

    This is the first time I’ve seen this list, but I will definitely be applying some, if not all, of these things to my life going forward. It is so easy to judge others when you don’t know their situation. This is a constant battle with me. On that note, the weather is going to be great today so I’m going to go outside and take a walk on my lunch hour.

  • Reply Samara Diggs November 29, 2017 at 9:12 am

    Great list. I am always try to learn. your webinar last night was awesome. #9 is hard for me but working on it.

  • Reply Kenyari November 29, 2017 at 9:29 am

    This is a great list. It helps to have a guide like this when trying to achieve your goals. I will be sharing with my friends.

  • Reply Bea November 29, 2017 at 9:34 am

    I have been working on a couple of these this year,; not giving up on my dreams/putting them on hold, and being without fear & doubt. I feel that once I became a mom I put my dreams on hold a bit and then when I thought about going after them, doubt and fear would creep in. So this year I decided to change that! Thank you for this post. It’s great!!

  • Reply Clarisse November 29, 2017 at 10:06 am

    This is a great list, thank you for sharing. I definitely have a lot of work to do in 2018, but I feel motivated knowing that I am not alone and other women also go through the same challenges.

  • Reply Tatiana Cole November 29, 2017 at 10:22 am

    Live for others was one I was conscious of this past year. I’m always pushing myself to stop negative self talk and being silent. It’s a never ending battle. Last year, I started writing goals on my birthday in February. I feel like it takes some pressure off the new year buzz. My birthday also gives me some awareness of what year I’m going into in my life and being thankful of still being here to enjoy it.

    This time around I need to look at them more often and really make a plan. I had long list that I reviewed a lot in the first 3 months and then again at month 6. So I have to review them more often. Your 5 categories in the podcast will definitely help streamline my long list. Thank you! (

  • Reply Ann Reaux November 29, 2017 at 10:50 am

    My number one thing for me and always have been is to uplift other sistahs in anyway and anyhow. I always say positive things or will compliment their hair (esp. if its natural hair) 🙂 or their clothes; I like to share things too (like scholarship information for other moms, for their kids). I hate when we don’t, as sistahs, uplift each other.

  • Reply Shalinda Sumler November 29, 2017 at 11:31 am


    I just love how inspirational you are and how you are willing to help someone in need. I love how you take time out of your busy life to get out information that will help us in our now and also in the future. May God be with you and everything you do here on out. One of your ladybug supporters. Shalinda

  • Reply Celeste Charles November 29, 2017 at 11:43 am

    This list is excellent! and while they’re all great – I relate most with putting my dreams on hold and settling for less. As a wife, mother, and budding entrepreneur it’s SO easy to put my son or my husband before myself but this year I’ve learned that I have to CHOOSE ME in order to give the best of myself to them. It’s oxymoronic in a sense, but it’s been the key to my freedom! 🙂

  • Reply crystal allen November 29, 2017 at 11:47 am

    What a great list. I really do need to listen more and to stop putting myself down. Do you know how much you can learn about people if you just let them talk? Thank you for the reminders.

  • Reply Britney Hines November 29, 2017 at 1:50 pm

    This is truly a great list and one I will try to come back to while I prepare my goals for 2018. I will be honest and say that I am guilty of #3 and #9 the most. I’m constantly telling myself why I can’t and not on why I will. With therapy and journaling I’m working through these things, but thank you for the reminder.

  • Reply Amenia R. November 29, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    I think my biggest problem is I doubt my self. Like you said we speak Negativity on our self and that is a battle I am fighting. I have faith that I can conquer the world but sometimes fear of failure takes over so my new year resolutions for myself is to not focus on the what if I fail. But to look at the bigger picture ok it didn’t go as planned what can I do to make it better. You are really helping me channel something I didn’t know existed in me. (

  • Reply Kemberley Wheatley November 29, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    I am really working on leaving the worry and doubt behind, because once that gets a hold, it tends to have me second guess my goals. I want to continue to grow daily.

  • Reply Terry November 29, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    #3 hit home for me… Negative self talk.. if we focus not on what others have to say, we’d see how much we really tear down our own infinite possibilities. I was at church Sunday and my pastor reminded me to ‘watch what you listen to’ pretty much like the saying… garbage in, garbage out. It rings so true.

    Keep out the negative self talk… yes of what others say, but watch what you tell yourself.

  • Reply Ms. Alfreda Mitchell November 29, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    Great list Jenelle….I won’t say what mine are. I am gonna just try and be a better me in 2018. I also look forward to a new year and all the wonderful things it has to offer.

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