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8 Of The Best Tips For First Time Moms

May 22, 2017

Before Elle and Joel were born I did so much research. I read up on what I should eat while pregnant, how to properly breastfeed and how to get my babies to sleep. I took classes at the hospital to teach me the proper breathing techniques for a vaginal delivery and I asked my mom and the other moms in my family for advice. And I got a lot of advice. Lots of moms telling me to do things, not do things, what worked for them, and what didn’t work for them. Some of it was helpful, and some of it was not. But I had the information and that was the best way I could prepare myself.

Would I consider myself a parenting expert? Absolutely. Seriously, I am… not, but when you have two children you learn a lot and you feel like you are, at least with your kids you are. If you are a new mom looking for advice I have a few tips for you to get through those first few months as a new mom.


Don’t obsess about germs

The last thing in the world you want to happen to your perfectly brand new baby girl or boy is for them to get sick, but sanitizing your hands every time you touch a door handle is a little excessive. Keep your baby away from sick people and try to relax a little. I have a funny memory of the first time my family came over to see Joel after I came home from the hospital. I insisted that everyone wash their hands thoroughly with soap and water. My dad couldn’t stop laughing. He kept saying, “But I’m the grandpa”. To that I replied, “And you have germs, now wash up so you can hold your grandson.” When you’re stressing out about germs and what not just remember that if your baby stays inside all day every day and is never exposed to germs, their immune system won’t build up and they will end up getting sick more. So be smart, but don’t get obsessive and hand them a Huggies wipe to clean off the germs.

Tell everyone to bring you diapers in the next size

I’m sure you most likely received a ton of diapers during your baby shower. I’d be willing to bet most of those diapers were size NB or size 1. You’d be surprised how fast you go through them and you probably never considered how fast your baby would grow out of those sizes either.

Your baby is going to pee and poop about 6-8 times a day. In a week, that’s about 42 -56 diapers.  You’ll be going through those packs a Huggies faster than you can do the laundry. Within the first week or two, my babies had grown right out of the NB diapers. By month 3 (or was it month 2?) They were busting out of a size 1. I was completely done with all the diapers I got from my baby shower and I had to get the Huggies on my own. Thank goodness for coupons! In fact here’s a coupon from Family Dollar on Huggies pampers and on Huggies wipes – What can I say except you’re welcome? *If your kids make you watch Moana 2x a day, then you totally just sang that line.*

To make sure you’re always stocked up on Huggies never let your family come over empty handed. Ask them to stop by Family Dollar and grab a pack of the Huggies Snug & Dry diapers and a pack of wipes to accompany the diapers. My family would always ask me if I needed anything before they came over and after saying “no I’m good” every time after I had Joel, I learned that this is the worst thing you could say. Lesson learned and I did things really differently with Elle. If she was on a size 1 diaper, I asked for a pack of size 2s! This way I would stay stocked up.

Joel, Elle and I stopped by Family Dollar on Sunday to grab some Huggies Snug & Dry diapers for my God daughter.

Being the good God mommy that I am I often get her toys, clothes and of course Huggies diapers which now come with increased absorbency and the Huggies One & Done Refreshing wipes.

The new packaging on the wipes ensure only one wipe comes out a time so there’s no waste and no drying out!

I saved $2.50 on Huggies Snug & Dry diapers and Huggies One & Done Refreshing wipes with the Family Dollar Smart coupon!

Ask for help if you need it

While we’re on the subject of telling people when you need diapers, it’s imperative that diapers not be the only things you ask for. If you feel overwhelmed by staying home all day with your tiny little baby, ask for help! Your husband is a great person to start with and I’m going to let you in on something you may have already figured out – If you don’t tell your husband what you need him to do… Im sure you can finish the rest.

Don’t be shy to ask for a friend or family member to come visit and help out. If gramma is around, she will be over there faster than your contractions girl! If you need someone to come over for a bit so you can pee, shower or SLEEP then ask! It’s totally okay to need some help. You are new at this motherhood thing, and it isn’t something that people are pros at overnight.

Find a hobby outside of mothering

I love being a mom and as incredible as motherhood is if you don’t have a hobby then you are going to get burned out pretty fast. Blogging is my thing that I love to do and I’ve been blessed to have this be my job because it also doubled as my outlet. I also love painting my nails, reading, photography, running and cooking. I can’t tell you how helpful it is to have a hobby or job or something else that you love to do. It’s good for your sanity to have something that is “your thing” and I strongly suggest figuring out what that is for the safety of everyone around you.

Sleep when your baby sleeps

Your baby is going to be the most adorable, beautiful, perfect little person in the whole world but she is going to need so much from you requiring all your time, attention and energy.   Naturally, you are going to want to do all the things around the house while she sleeps. DON’T. DO NOT. ABSOLUTELY UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU.

Folding laundry while Elle hangs out, she was 4 months old here.

When that precious little baby closes her eyes for a nap that is also your cue to close your eyes. I’m sure I’m not the first person who has told you this either. And it’s very likely that you won’t take heed to this information until baby number two comes along but you can’t say we didn’t warn you. If you absolutely must clean the house remember this, newborns don’t move, so you can wash the dishes and do the laundry and vaccum or mop while they are awake. This is the best time to do all of that stuff. But when those eyes close mom, yours should too.

Your husband will love you even if the house is a mess and dinner isn’t ready

There is no day when you have a newborn that you will get everything done that you wanted to. Every day with a newborn feels like it lasts forever and when your husband finally comes home, your house might look like an atomic bomb went off with laundry everywhere. On those days, you might have to order a pizza or our favorite – Chinese. And guess what? That really is no big deal. You are a mom. You are doing a super hard job, and you are killing it too! And your husband knows that. So if you have a day where you don’t get everything done on your to-do list, it’s okay. Your husband is still going to love you.

You aren’t a bad mom

You are a good mom having a bad day. Sometimes we can’t stop yelling. Sometimes we’re too tired be a mommy and we let our kids watch TV and eat snacks. That’s okay! Not every day is going to be filled with playgrounds and educational activities and building things out of blocks. Bad days happen, even to moms, and it’s important not to get hung up when they do. Just get through the day, and start the next one off better. You want what is best for your children, and that makes you a good mom, even if you have a hard day.

Joel hanging out while I get dressed, he was 4 months old here.

Pay attention to yourself

Be aware that postpartum depression happens to a lot of people. If you don’t enjoy doing things, if you aren’t as happy as you thought you would be with your new baby, if you don’t feel like talking to people, or you feel down for longer than two weeks, step outside your situation and realize what is happening. Get help before it gets worse. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and more people suffer from postpartum depression than you know. So pay attention to yourself, and if you think you might be struggling with PPD, get help.

Cheers!

Ready to toast the fact that you’re an awesome mom? Plan ahead: It takes about two to three hours for one serving of beer or wine to pass through your system. Just enough time before she’s ready to nurse again.

 

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40 Comments

  • Reply Christelle May 22, 2017 at 11:36 pm

    Post Partum Depression definitely got me with all 3 of mine. It just snuck up and I didn’t even realize it! Good to be aware 🙂 Great post!

  • Reply Christine May 23, 2017 at 3:40 am

    Brilliant tips! As a mum of two myself, I can relate to all of them. 🙂

  • Reply Shirley Wood May 23, 2017 at 11:00 am

    Elle is simply adorable sleeping in the laundry basket! Huggies are great diapers and coupon savings at Family Dollar is just the best way to save on the budget.

  • Reply Ashley S May 23, 2017 at 11:33 am

    Great advice! I admit, I was totally the mom who obsessed about germs LOL

  • Reply Heather Lawrence May 23, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I’m a mom of 4 so I totally agree with your tips.
    I would add to schedule a date night. Marriages need nurturing too 🙂

  • Reply Rebecca Bryant May 23, 2017 at 6:24 pm

    The diaper in the next size is a great tip. I always like to give diapers or gift cards so that mom is cover when the little one starts growing.

  • Reply Ashley May 23, 2017 at 7:11 pm

    Diapers in the next size! I learned that one after my first. They grow out of newborn stuff quickly so help me out and get the bigger ones!! lol

  • Reply Dawn Nieves May 23, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    These are such great tips! My first pregnancy I was that mom who obsessed about germs. With the second, eh. It’s not worth obsessing!

  • Reply Alicia Taylor May 23, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    All excellent advice. My oldest son is now 26. My youngest is 24. It’s amazing how soon they grow up. The first one – I was a germaphobe. By the second, I just didn’t even try. LOL – two boys, what can I say? My niece is expecting and her baby shower is coming up. I ordered her diapers in size 2. Again… experience speaks. All excellent advice. Thanks.

  • Reply Jenn Borget May 24, 2017 at 2:56 am

    I definitely wish I had these tips when I was pregnant with my first. I love the order up in size diaper tip, I’ll definitely have to pass that along to my newbie mommies!

  • Reply Milena May 24, 2017 at 6:41 am

    Yes, these are great things to pass on. I wish I would have slept more when my baby slept. I would have been more relaxed if I did that.

  • Reply Kristin May 24, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    I always try to give sizes most people don’t! Everyone goes for newborn and that stage is so fleeting!

  • Reply Liz Mays May 25, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    Ah, you make some really good points. I remember having to reassure myself every now and then. Learning to adjust to the germs and messiness definitely helps too.

  • Reply Paula Atwell May 25, 2017 at 7:59 pm

    Love the image of y0ur baby in a basket. I am amazed at how so many parents are obsessed about germs these days. When my kids (20s now) were young, we bathed them and washed their hands after meals or getting muddy/dirty, but that was it. We did not carry around special soap other than extra baby wipes. I think that if we protect our kids too much from germs they never build up an immunity.

  • Reply Ryan, @prettyRyan15 November 17, 2017 at 8:08 am

    Great tips!

  • Reply Andrea Stots-Watkins November 17, 2017 at 8:12 am

    As a mom of 2, I can relate to every tip in this post. The one I often pass along when talking to pregnant or new moms is to sleep when baby sleeps.

  • Reply fleeta November 17, 2017 at 8:18 am

    I can remember being first time mom and feeling all alone. The best advice is to ask for help. No one will fault you for taking s nap because my well being is just as important as my babies.
    (fabo1129@gmail.com)

  • Reply Sherena Gurley November 17, 2017 at 8:20 am

    I don’t have any babies yet. But these are great tips and I’ll be sure to refer back to these when that day comes.

  • Reply Katrina Townsend November 17, 2017 at 8:21 am

    Thanks for the tips. They were great.

  • Reply Tanya Woods November 17, 2017 at 8:32 am

    These are all great tips. Shortly after I gave birth I joined a moms group. They were key in helping me get through the first months of motherhood. I didn’t always sleep when baby was sleeping but i did take that time to relax, go shower, read or just sit and be still.

  • Reply Ashley Prince November 17, 2017 at 8:32 am

    I feel you so much on this. As ive mentioned to you before we are in our 3rd yr trying to conceive and im constantly reading up and asking my mommy friends different things that pop to mind. I think we can never be too prepared for a little one. The baby fever is so real over here. Lol
    Ashleynicoleprince@yahoo.com

  • Reply Pri R. November 17, 2017 at 8:44 am

    It’s so true to ask for help when overwhelmed..I remember there was one night when I was extremely tired and knew I needed to get a full night sleep so fortunately my parents offered to take care of my little one and it was heaven sent! I was able to recharge and felt great afterwards.

  • Reply Tiffany Moore November 17, 2017 at 9:03 am

    Being a new mom is an exciting, joyous, exhausting time of life. Having someone there to help guide you, give advice or to just give you a break so you can get some sleep is so very important. I feel it’s essential to also have other moms to connect with who can relate and understand what you’re experiencing. It can definitely make this special time in your life a lot easier.

  • Reply Synthia November 17, 2017 at 9:12 am

    Yes sleep when your baby sleeps!! I remember helping my sister out when my nephew was born and she layed the baby to sleep and legit she was out! lol She looked like a big baby next to her sleeping son.
    Asking for help is smart as well. When my nephew was born for the first two months one or two family members would visit my sister to help her with cleaning or watching the baby when she showered or something.

  • Reply Lola Enoch November 17, 2017 at 9:16 am

    This such a encouraging post and so true. I wish I had this advice before I had my baby, but every single point is something I’ve learned on this journey of motherhood thus far.

    ftarfa17@gmail.com

  • Reply amanda whitley November 17, 2017 at 10:15 am

    all of these are great and things you may not hear as often. The diaper one is especially true..they grow out of the first few sizes so quick

  • Reply Kejuan November 17, 2017 at 10:16 am

    I’m so guilty of obsessing over germs! 😕 after both kids contracted hfm I couldn’t help it. Daycares can be very dangerous as it pertains to germs.

    I agree about asking for diapers. Those are the only gifts that’ll last financially.

  • Reply Tatiana November 17, 2017 at 10:27 am

    These are great tips! I have two kids now. 3.5 yr old and 7 month old.
    The larger size diapers are key! My youngest is in size 4 already. I had enough newborn and size 1 diapers from the diaper cakes. Haha. I finally learned with my second child to sleep when he slept and it was a game changer.
    I still have this sense of letting the house get messy. I started decluttering to help with less stuff to clean!
    Tdiddy1023@gmail.com

  • Reply Rajee Pandi November 17, 2017 at 11:13 am

    so cute

    • Reply Rajee Pandi November 17, 2017 at 11:14 am

      I had lot of fun with my son. He didnot like me to do laundry and love to curl up all the folded clothes

  • Reply Damesha Wise November 17, 2017 at 12:04 pm

    Now this was Campbell’s “hmm, hmm Good”. As I approach the Mommy of two in just a few days or week, this was still a great reminder. I definitely fell under the umbrella off a few of not all of your points more times than I’d like to admit. I say we are all just learning Day by day and being our best even at our worst. Having children is the greatest learning curve that I’ve ever encountered. Thanks for the refresher! drich7888@gmail.com

  • Reply Ty'Mikka Williams November 17, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Reading this just gave me a better insight into motherhood. I’m not a mom (maybe one day….I’m engaged) but these were really great tips!!! 💜💜

  • Reply Ty'Mikka Williams November 17, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    Need more blogs like this….

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  • Reply KALLISA EDWARDS November 17, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    These are all awesome tips especially with purchasing the next size up. They grow up so fast! I’m not a mom, but I will take these tips into consideration when it’s my time.

    Kedwardsspoilbra@yahoo.com

  • Reply Samara Diggs November 17, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    Great tips. I am planning to do a diaper raffle for my best friend baby shower. I will suggest bigger sizes so it will make her life much easier.

  • Reply crystal allen November 17, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    Awesome tips! My favorite one is to sleep when the baby sleeps! That is so true. Being a mom is a challenge and they need us at our absolute best. I also love how you counted out how many diapers we need. I like to stock up too and that is a huge help!! Thanks!

  • Reply MICHELLE L DANIELS November 17, 2017 at 6:26 pm

    Great tips!Especially not feeling like you are a bad mom and just having a bad day. I loved the feeling of being ecxited during my pregnancy. Wish I could do it all over again.

  • Reply Nikecia Fuller November 17, 2017 at 9:21 pm

    Great advice!!!

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