Everybody has their idea of what being a good mother is and some of the women I speak to have set the standard of a good mom so high I personally can’t meet those standards. I consider myself to be an amazing mother but not because I’ve created some superficial list of what that looks like. I’m not perfect and will never be. I make mistakes and will continue to do so. So allow me to keep it real and share 3 of my truths about motherhood.
We ALWAYS Need HELP
Why is it everyone only wants to give you help during the first week the baby comes home? Because they are cute and sleep all day, right? But wouldn’t you agree that you need more and more help as the months and years go on?
What would you give for someone to come over and cook dinner for your family once a month, just once? I might give some of my hair.
I kid I kid, but on a serious note, moms need more help as our children grow not less. If you love me and my children please help me as often as you can even when I don’t ask. Help can come in many forms and here are several ways I would love for my good friends and/or relatives to help me out:
- Please take my kids to the park so I can get some work done uninterrupted or so I can finally go to the grocery store without having two children ask me for EVERYTHING!
- If our kids clearly go to the same school TaeKwonDo, ballet, gymnastics, soccer and church missionary group how about we carpool??
- If you are available in the afternoons please watch my kids for a few hours after school.
- If you know I loving your cooking, please cook a little bit more for me and my family when you’re making dinner this week. I’ll come and pick it up.
- If you are a smart positive person please serve as a mentor and positive role model in my children’s lives.
What are some of the ways you need the most help with your children?
We ALL Need A Break
I am an entrepreneur with a very demanding career and I work from home. Which means my children are ALWAYS home with me. My housework is always in my face and my children are always hungry. How on Earth do I get it all done?
I take breaks.
If you’ve ever wondered why I’m always so happy and how I keep it all together it’s because I plan to be away from my children every single month and it has made my life so much better.
My husband and I get away for date nights 1- 2x a month where we can celebrate each other, have some adult conversation without talking about transformers, eat a delicious meal, and sip on some creamy-licious JaM Cellars Butter Chardonnay.
Hubby and I love Thai food because its delicious, spicy and they offer vegan options for most of their dishes. To keep our date nights fun we pick a new Thai restaurant to visit but before we finalize our restaurant choice for our date night I give them a call to see if we can bring our JaM Cellars Butter Chardonnay wine. So far we’ve had no problems bringing our wine with us.
I enjoy a cup or two of wine from time to time and JaM Cellars Butter Chardonnay because its bold rich flavor melts in your mouth. Butter brims with stone fruit and baked-lemon notes and has a lovely, long, vanilla finish that leaves you yearning for another sip. I also appreciate the price point, $15.99 a bottle, so I don’t have to break the bank to buy a bottle or two. JaM Cellars makes three easy-to-love, everyday California wines Butter Chardonnay, JaM Cabernet and Toast Sparkling.
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When’s the last time you’ve taken a mommy break?
One Is One Two Is Twenty
If you’re a mom of 2 children you know exactly what that means. Not that going from one child isn’t hard but after having Joel Jr, I didn’t feel like life changed too much for my husband and I. We adapted to being new parents very easily and I commend my husband for his amazing support in child rearing. When I needed sleep, he jumped in, after his full day naps of course, but ummm help is help. He’s a great dad and he’s a very involved partner. But why didn’t anyone tell me that having two children would feel like we had an army of children?
With two, you not only have to care for a helpless newborn, you also have to deal with the needs of another child, often a toddler. When I had Elle, Joel Jr just celebrated his 2nd birthday just 2 months prior and understandably he was still at an age where he relied very much on me and even at 5 he still depends on me for everything.
I’ve talked with other moms with multiple children and the’ve said going from two children to three is easy it’s going from one to two that’s the killer. So to make life easier we should all have our third child as quickly as possible.
While the transition from one to two is hard there is good news: You’re an experienced mom now, and you’ll get up to speed very quickly. There were so many things I knew better to not do for Elle than I did for Joel. No babies don’t need a bath every night, they don’t need a change of clothes every time they spit up, and they don’t need to go to the doctor just because they sneeze.
Another bonus? Elle always had someone to play with and entertain her and vice versa with Joel Jr. As babies, while they were keeping each other occupied I could do light house work or just take a break. And now that they are older the two of them are inseparable and I adore their bond.
What are some of your real motherhood experiences?
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