My Son Is Tackling His Fears One Swim At A Time

November 12, 2017

I’ve partnered with Goldfish Swim School. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

I had to share how proud I am of Joel. Today Joel faced his fear of the water and participated in his swimming lessons at Goldfish Swim School. Let me take you back for a second to explain why this is such a big deal. Do y’all remember last summer when I enrolled Joel and Elle in swimming lessons with our town? If you do, then you also remember that after weeks of going to the pool for lessons Joel was only comfortable going into the water with the instructor holding him tightly at his chest but wouldn’t do much more than that due his fear of the water.

Joel wouldn’t leave the stairs during his summer swimming lessons last year

This summer we planned to enroll Joel in swimming lessons again but he begged us not to enroll him. When I say begged I mean he pleaded and explained that it would be a waste of time because he wouldn’t go in and that we’d go every day for no reason. Who is this kid?

So you know I’m the boss and I don’t care what my son has to say about what he doesn’t want to do. Do you think I enrolled him this summer? Of course I didn’t. I’m not going to waste money again! I had you there for a second right?

Well…I enrolled his sister in swimming lessons over the summer and she excelled during the 6 week program. But when that was over I felt like we needed to do more. My best friend Sasha enrolled my God daughter Alyssa in swimming lessons at the Goldfish Swim School and she highly recommend it to me.  We decided it would be a good idea to enroll Elle there as well to build on the swimming skills she learned over the summer.  We talked with Joel and he once again said he didn’t want to take swimming lessons. I said “fine” for the first two months but when I saw how fast Elle was progressing in just 4 lessons I knew I had to be the parent in this situation and enroll him in swimming lessons.

My goal is to get him over the fear of water, even if he doesn’t learn how to swim, I just want him to be calm (and maybe learn how to float too but beggers can’t be choosers). Last week Joel went to his first swimming lesson and wouldn’t get into the water. I didn’t push him. I asked him if he had fun and he said he did 😳 How? 🤷🏾‍♀️ I told him he’d have even more fun if he went into the water and he agreed. So today we put that to the test.

He went into the water (with some coaching) and he participated in class and was swimming across the pool with assistance. But my oh my was this a victorious day for my big boy! 🙌🏾

Watch this video to see his victory over the pool! I highly recommend Goldfish Swim School for teaching children of all ages how to swim. They have locations everywhere, find a location near you here.

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  • Reply Carla W November 13, 2017 at 8:55 am

    Good Job little man. You are doing great!!

  • Reply Tanisha J November 14, 2017 at 7:06 am

    That’s so awesome! Good for him!

  • Reply Carol Smith November 14, 2017 at 7:08 am

    I am impressed. Fear of the water is no joke.

  • Reply Evelyn Thomas November 14, 2017 at 8:08 am

    So proud of Joel for conquering his fear of water. #evespolitics

  • Reply Katrina Hardy November 14, 2017 at 8:10 am

    This is awesome. He is a brave little boy facing his fesr head on.

    • Reply Katrina Hardy November 14, 2017 at 8:10 am


  • Reply PRI November 14, 2017 at 10:15 am

    What an amazing moment..all the fun summers ahead from waterslides to riding the ocean waves

  • Reply Corrie Napora November 14, 2017 at 12:38 pm

    Good job Joel….conquering the 1st fear will make it easier to conquer fears in the future

  • Reply Shereese November 15, 2017 at 6:06 am

    Thank you for sharing Janelle. I enrolled my son in a fitness program for kids and one day a month they get to have pool time. My son was so EXCITED. Me in the other hand was a nervous wreck! I never wanted my fears of water to rub off on him and thank God it hasn’t. I plan to enroll him in lessons as well. I too also plan to enroll in swim lessons to overcome my fears.

    • Reply Shereese November 15, 2017 at 6:07 am

      Jenell** sorry for typo in your name

  • Reply Tieasha Samuels November 15, 2017 at 6:40 am

    That is so wonderful. Great job Joel. My husband & I recently enrolled our two children into swim classes. My son (5) absolutely loved it & was immediately looking forward to his next class. My daughter (7) on the other hand completely broke down after her class. Broke my heart into pieces. Dad & I soothed & talked to her. Asked her to esplain what caused her to cry. She didn’t have much to day except that she knew for sure she NEVER wanted to go back. We are hopeful she will chamge her mind when she is ready & we will be here to support her 100%. Thanks for sharing this with us.

    Nove 15

  • Reply Renisha Thomas November 15, 2017 at 7:59 am

    Way to go Joel!!!!!!!!! You can do anything you put your mind to. My son was enrolled in swimming lessons but he to wasn’t to fond of the water. I haven’t enrolled him back as yet, but I plan to for the new year 2018. We live in a tropical island that is surrounded with water and having the ability to swim is an essential part of island living. I unfortunately never learned to swim, with that being said I want him to have the opportunity to learn.

  • Reply Ashley November 15, 2017 at 8:49 am

    What an accomplishment Joel!!! Also kudos to mama for stepping in and pushing him to reach that goal. At times it’s hard because we don’t want to get out that comfort zone but when we do, there’s no stopping us!!!

  • Reply Tatiana November 15, 2017 at 9:29 am

    This is incredible!!! What a change. I never seen those platforms in the water before. This looks legit.

    My daughter was in lessons for one session last year. I figured she should have something continuous so she can build her skills and confidence in the water.

    So we just started her again. Oddly, she has to warm up to getting in the water every time but she loves it.


  • Reply KALLISA EDWARDS November 15, 2017 at 10:40 am

    Way to go Joel and Janelle thank you for persisting yet calming to the situation. He was able to tackle his fear and he will thank you for it later. I have always loved the water and almost drowned multiple times, but still wouldn’t stay out of it. As an adult, I decided to enroll in swim classes as my parents stated that they couldn’t afford to when I was a child. I was excited, but fearful since I have always had the fear of my head going under water due to the two times I almost drowned as a child. Well I learned to swim and now I can say that I have power snorkeled in the deep sea and you can’t keep me out of the sea now. Joel will continue to do great!


  • Reply Teneil November 15, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    Awesome! Congrats Joel! I can’t wait for my little girl to learn how to swim, but we have some time she’s only 5.5 weeks old.


  • Reply Jenell Jenkins November 15, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    Hello Jenell! Not only do we have the same same name we spell the same way ! Anywho happy I️ subscribed to your blog looking forward to more post! I️ have two young kids and they learned to swim in my mother in laws pool in the back yard. I️ do want to get them signed up professionally we will see how that goes. I️ live in Brooklyn nyc so not many options . Well until next time have a blessed night xoxo

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  • Reply Alicia Moore November 15, 2017 at 6:55 pm

    Way to go Joel!! Next is my turn! lol

  • Reply Shanice Phillips November 15, 2017 at 8:06 pm

    That was great initiative Jenelle. You are a great parent and you allowed your son the opportunity to gain a new skill despite his fear. Way to go Joel.

  • Reply Onyinye Elochukwu November 15, 2017 at 11:24 pm

    We enrolled my son last summer. He was so nervous and scared initially but he got used to it.

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