Our Special Bond

January 6, 2018

Historically in Liberian culture, moms and daughters aren’t friends. There’s a clear distinction between “parent” and “child”. My relationship with Elle treads that line.

I’m sure you can tell that Elle and I have a special bond. I refer to Elle as my “pocketbook” because she’s always at my hip. Elle is far from a daddy’s girl – FAR. She demands I read to her every night and will cry when it’s her dads night to read to her. If I’m away for work at an industry event or speaking engagement she keeps me hostage on FaceTime for hours while I’m in the hotel. And when I hang up my husband says she cries the whole day holding my personal belongings to comfort her. She must sit next to me in church and because hubby sits to my right she ends up fighting with her brother for the spot on my left. When we go out to eat she must sit on my side of the table even if it’s just the two of us.

I love our bond.

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  • Reply Clara January 7, 2018 at 11:38 am

    I was the same way with my mom as a young child. When she went to the bathroom, I would sit right outside the door waiting for her to come out. My mom is still my rock.

  • Reply Yona Williams January 7, 2018 at 12:57 pm

    I love the description of the bond you and your daughter have. She is such a cutie, and already a star on Instagram – so photogenic. I am also feeling the deep warmth and level of love in the above photo in this post! I am very close to my Mom (and always have been), we spend more time together than most mother-daughter pairs, I think.

  • Reply lisalisa January 7, 2018 at 1:02 pm

    I love the bond you speak about with Elle, its so beautiful and Priceless! I was the same way with my mom and boy do I miss her. She use to say we were hip jointed because everywhere she went I was also with her. Now, the beautiful thing about bonding with my mom was I had 13 siblings and believe it or not, mom had a bond with us all in her own unique way. It was so beautiful seeing how my younger siblings when cry when she left. My dad worked so mom was home mostly but, I feel there’s something special about a mother’s bond even with my own children.

  • Reply Adrienne January 7, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    This is just so sweet! I have a very close bond with my mom as well. We’re basically best friends. To your point about the parent/child roles, I think it is possible to befriend your children while still requiring respect from them. Growing up, I knew my parents were my parents and that they meant business, but I also knew that they were the best confidants and “friends” that I could ever have. There’s a fine line, but it’s doable. Elle is so lucky to have such a special bond with you.

  • Reply Alysia Bear January 7, 2018 at 2:03 pm

    This is such a beautiful shot of two gorgeous ladies. I wish I had this kind of bond with my mother but, coming from an entirely different type of parenting experience, it’s far from affectionate. I’ve got 3 girls of my own and one is super independent, one’s definitely Mummy’s girl (like yours) and one *used* to be all mine but has now been corrupted by my husband! :O The traitor!
    I love the uniqueness of all of it but, I have to admit, it gives me a special feeling to be wanted/needed by Mummy’s girl.

    To be honest, I hadn’t heard of your site before because I live under a rock lol -_-, but now that I have I’m in love! You are absolutely stunning and your mane of glory is absolute perfection! <3

  • Reply Kathleen January 7, 2018 at 5:12 pm

    What a really nice photo. I want one like this with my daughter coz’ she’s also my “pocketbook”. She is soooo attached to me. She’s growing very fast though and I want to keep every baby fat, baby cheeks while I can. She still wears a onesie even if she’s already 4.5. and we don’t mind, it’s so cute.

  • Reply Jasmine January 7, 2018 at 5:33 pm

    This is absolutely BEAUTIFUL. I can’t wait to build and feel that special bond with a child of my own someday!

  • Reply Kerrie January 7, 2018 at 7:04 pm

    oh how wonderful! The bond I have with my boys is exactly the same – far deeper than I thought could be possible. Seems I love them more each day. So fun to see them grow into their own people.

  • Reply NYC Single Mom January 7, 2018 at 8:43 pm

    I have never wanted or tried to be my daughter’s friend but my daughter and I have a special bond which I cherish. enjoy every moment because in a blink of an eye it goes by so fast.

  • Reply Aileen Adalid January 8, 2018 at 8:22 am

    Aw, I love the close bond that the two of you have! It’s the same for me and my mom when I was young too and I can imagine the joy you’re feeling. All the best to the two of you <3

  • Reply Bites for Foodies January 8, 2018 at 2:39 pm

    I have such an amazing bond with my mother and have ALWAYS said I wanted a daughter because I wanted to have that bond with her too. It is something so unbelievably special..and I’m happy to say I have it with my daughter now!

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